30. Relationships and Relatedness: Why Not Caring What People Think is Bullsh*t and is Keeping You Stuck

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This episode is for you if:

• You’ve been trying to build something quietly. Maybe a business, a creative project, a new chapter, but it’s starting to feel lonely.
• You find yourself stuck in your head, second-guessing everything, or avoiding action altogether.
• You’ve bought into the “I don’t care what anyone thinks” mindset, but it’s not actually helping you move forward.
• You know connection matters, but you’re not sure how to build the kind that supports your goals.

In this episode, we dive into:

• 3 common action blocks caused by disconnection (and how to recognise them in yourself)
• The myth of hyper-independence and why going it alone keeps you stuck
• How to take aligned, meaningful action and not just performative productivity
• What self-determination theory and the PERMA model teach us about motivation and momentum
• Practical tools you can use this week to feel more supported and start taking action

Research and theories mentioned:
– Self-Determination Theory by Deci & Ryan (Autonomy, Competence, Relatedness)
– PERMA Model by Martin Seligman (Positive Emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, Accomplishment)
– The evolutionary need for belonging and community safety

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